Military Lifestyle

Tips for Surviving the Love Holiday Solo

It’s Valentine’s Day…and your significant other is with his other love, the military. Sometimes she can be pretty stingy with their time, but it’s up to us to make the most of every moment.

What do you do? Well, you could eat chocolate, drink wine, and watch sappy movies guaranteed to turn you into a hot mess. And let’s be honest, nobody, and I mean nobody, wants to see that. Puffy eyes aren’t great for impromptu Skype calls.


You could channel all that love into something productive and sweet to show your Valentine how much you were thinking of him/her while they were away.

Suggestions for Valentine’s Day

Some options to keep your chin, and your spirit, up during the love holiday:

  1. Girls Night – there is nothing better than surrounding yourself with those who know your plight as well as you. Civilian friends and family just don’t understand what it feels like to jump at text or consider showering with your phone. These ladies (and gents) will laugh and cry and get excited for the reunion with you.
  2. Pinterest Projects – it’s really hard to beat some silly, albeit corny, deployment boxes. Channel those sad and depressing feelings into something that will perk you and your favorite guy/gal up. Trust me, you can get pretty creative. My husband and I celebrated our first Valentine’s apart. I turned that time into tacky/corny poster board with some of our favorite songs – I did mention these could be super corny, right?
  1. Pamper Yourself – Granted, you don’t need a special holiday to pamper yourself. BUT it’s a great way to unwind and relax. Everyone needs some R&R on occasion and what better time than now. Plus Massage Envy offers a military discount.

Hang In There, Solo MilSpouse

One couple’s reunion post-WWII

One thing to keep in mind no matter how you decide to celebrate on the 14th, just remember that your lover’s absence is temporary. Whether its deployment, a training, or boot camp – they will be back in your arms soon. It doesn’t have to be a holiday for you to show them how much you love and missed them. Trust me, nothing beats that 3rd, 4th, or 5th first kiss.

Michelle is a virtual assistant by trade, and a military spouse by love. Her husband Sean is a pilot in the Marine Corps, and they have been married for 4 years. Through multiple relocations, appliance mishaps, deployments, and internet outages Michelle has built a vibrant, thriving independent virtual assistant business for herself. Her own experience as a military spouse gives her unique insight into the multitude of challenges facing her fellow military spouses who want to have a career of their own, but struggle to find gainful employment local to the base they find themselves stationed at. These challenges inspired her to start

She has also been nominated for Military Spouse of the Year. Michelle on LinkedIn.

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