Military Mail

Military Girlfriend 101 – Writing letters to basic training

Ashley Sevcik’s boyfriend, Diego, is into his final weeks of training to become a Marine on Parris Island. Ashley has been using the Sandboxx app to send her recruit letters so we asked her some of the questions that we hear from military other-halves every day.

How long did it take you to get his address?

It took about 1-2 weeks to receive his address. His mom had tracked down someone that worked at the local recruiting office in order to get the address.

How long did it take for you to receive the first letter?

It was about 2 weeks before I received my first letter from him. My recruit is down at Parris Island so it takes about 4-5 days for a letter to get to me.

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How often do you write?

I try to send him a letter everyday before I go to bed from the Sandboxx app. I think it’s important to write as often as you can because it really does help them get through their rigorous training.

What do you write about?

Anything and everything. I lay on my bed at the end of the day and start off the letter with what happened that day. I try to tell him funny stories to lift his spirits as often as I can. If something bad happened that day I refrain from telling him about it because it’s important for these letters to be positive, the last thing your recruit needs is to be worried about you. Once I’ve told him about my day I’ll go on to tell him how much I miss and love him. At this point I start to give him a pep talk. Training is hard, mentally and physically, so it’s extremely important that they know there are people rooting for them. I use encouraging phrases like, “I believe in you” and “you got this” regularly.

Do you keep in touch with his family?

Yes! I talk to him mom a few times a week to see how she’s doing. It can be difficult on a family when their loved one goes away for training, so knowing that you are there supporting them helps a lot.

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What do you do instead of hanging out with him?

I try to keep as busy as possible. I found that for me, keeping busy helps me stay positive. Always having something to do or somewhere to go keeps my mind off of him. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do something. Go out with friends, take walks, go to the movies, paint, dance, do anything that makes you happy.

Do you have any advice for future military girlfriends?

Don’t give up on your recruit. They need you now more than ever. I won’t lie, it’s really difficult at times. There are moments when I’ll see something that reminds me of a memory he and I share and it’ll make me sad, but the sadness doesn’t last long. The first few weeks are tough. You have to get used to not having your best friend by your side 24/7 and it sucks, however, it does get easier. Soon your recruit starts to get used to boot camp and you get used to being without them. It’s difficult but nothing worth having comes easily. Send letters, be positive and don’t forget to focus on your own happiness!

Read part two of writing letters to basic training.


  1. great concept for an App, and thanks for sharing her story!
    I love Mail and am a MilSO myself, I haven’t heard of sandboxx before but now I’m excited to download and see what you guys are about!

  2. I notice this is dated 2015. Is this still available in 2017? How do they get this sandbox mail if they do not have their phone or use of computer?

  3. Cute article and good advice! I used Sandboxx while I was in Germany to send letters to my boyfriend while he was in AF officer training and he said my letters got to him before anyone else’s did! It was really easy for him to use the paper and pen it comes with to send me a letter back once I got to the states. Thanks Sandboxx!

    1. Good morning, Autumn. Yes, this would be a great way to communicate with your boyfriend. When you send your letter in the app, our Operations team prints it off and then we mail it out to him. Depending on where he’s based we can mail it overnight. He would get his letter and then use the envelope attached to the letter to write you back. For any further questions, please reach out to our customer support team at Thank you for your interest in Sandboxx.

  4. Question for you.. Please help.. Not sure if I’m able to send a Care package to my friend a US Soldier in the Middle east from where I’m at . Canada . Although I won’t even be able to figure out where he’s at.. Is there a certain hub I can ship it to and they resend it to him.. So would love to surprise him… Please help it would mean so . much… 🙂

    1. Hi, Cathy. If you don’t have the address you can’t send a care package. The package will get returned to sender. We hope this helps.

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